Source: California Psychics
It is Not Always About Sex!
One of the greatest misunderstandings
between men and women is what each other wants. Yes, we all want love,
sex, romance, happiness, and success. However, we do have slightly
different expectations as to how a first date should begin and end. Now,
I may still be trying to figure out what women want, but I do have a pretty good idea of what most guys are looking for, and it not necessarily what women think it is.
He Wants to Know This is a First Date
Let’s
be honest. Most guys are just happy to be on a first date. What I am
really saying is they expect it to feel like a date, and not an outing
with a friend. Keeping it casual is okay, but guys want to believe their
pinky is at least halfway into the lingerie drawer (so to speak).
He’s Looking for a Sense of Appreciation
I
don’t think the problem here lies with a woman who is not appreciative
of a date who is paying, but I don’t think women always understand how
they are supposed to react. A lot of young guys seem to mention the fake
grab for the bill as an appreciated move. However, I am of the more
old-fashioned variety who believes a simple smile and “thank you” should
be all that is necessary.
He Just Wants to Get to Know Your Personality
Guys
want to know about your life. However, most prefer to start with your
personality, and then move to your biography at a later date. In other
words, keep any reiteration of your life story short. Guys are really
only interested in the details of where you grew up and what kind of
cookies your Grammy used to bake after they’ve established a rapport
with you. In the beginning, most guys will appreciate anecdotal, or
humorous stories that establish you have a fun personality.
He Wants to Smell You
Studies
suggest that a good portion of men prefer organic scents over the more
exotic ones. A guy’s brain is quite prehistoric when it comes to
sniffing out the perfect set of genes and hormones to compliment him.
This is why most guys prefer the natural scent of lavender, apple, or
pumpkin, as they still provide access to your own smell. However, don’t
get too carried away with any fragrance.
He Wants You to Have a Good Time
Part
of being easy-going on a first date is being open to trying new things.
If he asks what you want to do, and you do have a preference, by all
means let him know. He really does want to make you happy. However, I
will just mention, sometimes trying something completely new is the better option, as that “fish out of water” feeling can help bolster fun conversation.
He Wants to Feel Like the Date Was an “Event”
Most
guys don’t care who designed your outfit, but they will care about the
amount of effort that appears to have gone into getting ready. I’m not
suggesting you overdo it, but just make sure there are enough visible
signs to show you care.
He Wants You to Himself
Most
guys want you all to themselves. They don’t want to be competing for
your attention. This means leave your smart phone off, or at least let
us know if you are expecting a call or text. This will go a long way in
making us feel important.
He Wants Engaging Conversation
I
think that some women don’t engage in certain conversations because
they really don’t know what to say. Chances are, if he is talking about
it, it is important to him, so go ahead and ask questions. Don’t worry,
you won’t sound dumb; you’ll sound interested. The reason this is
important is because guys gauge a girl’s interest based on how much she
engages in his conversation. This is a subtle way of telling him that
he’s making a good impression.
He Wants to be Clued in on When to Round First Base
A
handful of guys feel awkward making the first move on a date. They
don’t want to appear too anxious. Rather than wonder why he hasn’t tried
to hold your hand or kiss you, most experts recommend breaking the ice
by making the first move. This can be as simple as taking his hand while
walking, or placing your hand on his knee while talking.
He Expects to Receive Some Sort of Grade on His Date Performance
This
is another way of describing the hug, kiss or clammy handshake he will
receive at the end of the date. Guys want to know if you are interested.
This isn’t an all-or-nothing thing, as most guys are happy with the
idea that she is at least moderately attracted to him. Believe it or
not, it is “the look” a guy is given in these final moments that will
often make up his mind as to whether or not he is going to call her
again.
